Make a Wish

by Leighann on January 19, 2011

She threw in three pennies and as she turned back to me
she said that none of her wishes had come true.

Hearing the news of her grandfather’s accidental, early, unforeseen death a few months ago, she began making wishes.

Each night the first star heard her whispers.

She still has moments of sadness and tears. Things remind her of him all the time.

It’s her first real experience with death and she’s still processing it.

She wants closure. She wants to go to his oceanside home. She wants to put something nice on his grave, like “cookies or flowers.”

I, too, needed closure which I did not get, have not gotten.

Over Christmas, my husband built photo ledges above our entry table to display family memories. Though most document 2010, a special one is displayed just for Q.

As she came down our stairs, she took in the photos, one-by-one. Suddenly her eyes lit up, a delighted gasp escaped her mouth, her hands came to her face.

“It’s Papa Gio! Thank you, mommy.”

{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 kim/hormone-colored days January 19, 2011 at 6:16 am

Wow, Leighann, I must have missed this news. I’m so sorry for your loss! What a lovely photo.


2 Renata January 19, 2011 at 12:37 pm

Awe…that’s beautiful. My father has been gone 23 years and it still makes me sad. I wish he had the chance to meet my husband beautiful children. I think it’s awesome how much she loves her Papa Gio.


3 Amy January 19, 2011 at 1:23 pm

Leighann, what a precious photo of Papa Gio and his Q! I love photos taken when the subjects are walking away. Such a neat perspective.

Sorry to hear about your loss. ((hugs))


4 Wendy January 19, 2011 at 1:35 pm

Photos are so important. I still have a picture of my grandma by my bed. She died 13 years ago but I still miss her a lot. It gets easier, but it never goes away. Time does help in the healing. Maybe the two of yo need to do a private ceremony of your own. Do something together that you would have done with him. Talk about all the things you remember about him and the things he liked. We released some balloons (I know this is bad for birds!) and sent them up to grandma. Now every time I see balloons up in the sky or every time the kids accidentally lose their balloon, we think of her and smile. I’m so sorry both of you are hurting. I promise that time will help, but do do something that will help you have a positive memory instead of just sadness. that will help too.


5 Kelli January 19, 2011 at 4:28 pm

Sorry for your loss, Leighann. Very cool photo of both Q at the fountain and of her and her grandpa. An interesting note about the fountain at the mall: the money used to go to the American Diabetes Association. Didn’t know if you knew that or not. I think it now goes to Habitat for Humanity.


6 Wendy January 19, 2011 at 11:18 pm

This was beautiful, Leighann. The pictures are priceless.


7 annettek January 20, 2011 at 12:08 pm

That second photo just about stops my heart. You know I understand. xoxoxo


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