Meet a D-Dad: Scott of Arden’s Day

by Leighann on June 14, 2010

D-Mom Blog Featured D-Dad

You’ve met a few D-Moms here each Monday, but today I am excited to get to know another D-Dad a little better.

I invite you to read about Scott Benner and his daughter Arden and then visit his blog Arden’s Day. He offers the unique perspective of being a stay at home father raising a child with type 1 diabetes. You can also follow him on Twitter; he’s @ArdensDay.

I’d like to introduce you to Scott of Arden’s Day.

Tell me something about your child.

Arden is a softball player and a yoga enthusiast.  She is a very good student. She loves fashion, she has been picking out her own clothes and dressing herself since she was 3 yrs old.

Arden's Day

How old was your child when diagnosed?

Arden was diagnosed almost 4 years ago on 8/22/06.  It was one month after her second birthday.

How was your child diagnosed?

To read the complete story of Arden’s diagnosis, please read How Did I Know? on Scott’s blog.

How has your child’s life changed since diagnosis?

I can’t lie, nothing positive has come from Arden having type 1. Positive things have happened since that wouldn’t have happened without type 1, but there’s nothing that I wouldn’t trade for Arden to not be sick. I’m never negative about type 1, but I am honest.

Arden has an awareness about life that she doesn’t deserve to have at this age. She knows that she is sick, she feels different at times, and she can resent the hoops she has to jump through to do everyday things, like eat and run.  The other day she cried and said she didn’t want to have diabetes any more – that happens a few times a year.

How has your family’s life changed since diagnosis?

More stress. Less time.

We haven’t just picked up and run out the door in years. We are always tired. We never don’t know what Arden’s BG is/was.

We’ve met a ton of wonderful people that are also effected by type 1. They are generally a strong bunch with wonderful spirits.

How has connecting online helped you cope with diabetes?

Connecting online has helped in so many ways, but if I had to choose one… Knowing that there are other people living the same life is knowledge that helps me remain centered. Not feeling alone lifted a huge burden. It’s very psychological, as it brings me no tangible improvement, but it’s definitely the best part.

How do you manage diabetes?

OmniPod & DexCom Seven Plus

What would you tell parents of a newly diagnosed child?

Not to set “timelines” for things. I had it in my mind that after a year I would feel less overwhelmed, confused, and scared. When that day arrived and I didn’t feel any better, it was depressing.  Honestly, it took almost two years for me to feel reasonably in control of the situation. It gets better, but there is no way to know when you’ll feel that relief.

What do you know now that you wish you had known at diagnosis?

That everything we were being taught was subject to change without notice or reason depending on the hour.

Arden's Day

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{ 7 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Mike LeBlanc June 14, 2010 at 7:11 am

thanks for featuring another D-dad Leighann

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2 Scott June 14, 2010 at 1:31 pm

Thank you so much for the honor of being featured on the blog! I’m humbled…

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3 Tona Morrow March 12, 2011 at 12:47 pm

Hi Scott,
I saw the story on ABC news about your daughter. Unfortunately I am a fellow parent of a diabetic child. My own daughter Cassidy, will be 14 years old next month. She was dignosed when she was 15 months old. She is on the Animas pump and doing as well as could be expected. The reason I am writing to you is that I noticed you checking your daughter’s bg. My Cassidy just hated poking her fingers more than everything (diabetes related) put together. We now use the FreeStyle Lite meter. Please try her forearm and/or her calf as an alternative to the finger! That has drastically improved our life. I know you will know what I mean by that last comment! We want our children to not be in pain every day and anything that can ease that burden is a noticible improvement!

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4 Scott March 12, 2011 at 6:30 pm

Tona,

Thank you for the great advice! 15 months is very young, Arden was 2 yrs. old and I know how difficult that was – sounds like your little girl has a great family and support system. You’re to be commended!

I was wondering in what market you saw the Health Watch piece and when? Thank you!

Best to your family,
Scott

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5 Tona Morrow March 13, 2011 at 10:58 am

It was on the 6ABC Philadelphia news yesterday (Saturday 03/12/11) on the 9:00am show. Your story was the last feature just before 10:00. I wasn’t sure what “thanks for the great advice” meant? Will you try alternative site testing with Arden? Have you previously tried and she didn’t like it? I am such an advocate for it, I have testing my fingers before and they hurt all day long. Now that there is something better- I am always pushing people to try it.
Take care!

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6 Scott March 13, 2011 at 11:03 am

Yes, alternate site testing was the advice I was saying thank you for. We’ve tried it in the past but Arden preferred her fingers. I’m going to talk to her about it again based on your advice.

I didn’t know about Philadelphia, thanks for the update… The Philly producer was supposed to email me before it ran and she didn’t.

Best,

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7 Tona Morrow March 18, 2011 at 5:49 am

Once our girls get used to something, it becomes difficult for them to try something different. It is hard to get out of the comfort zone! When Cassidy was in 3rd grade she went on the Animas pump. She was not happy about it at all. It is the best thing that we did though.
By the way, on the ABC show they had said that we could find your blog posted on their website. It wasn’t there! I called ABC Philly myself and told them it was never posted. I hope they have put it on by now. Lousy job ABC news!!!

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